Violeta Sakovic, good fairy from New York: Invest your energy in believing in yourself

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Violeta Sakovic, Good fairy from New York  

~ Milica Puric ~

When she came to New York a few years ago from Ivanjica, a small Serbian town, teacher Violeta Sakovic could not dream that her life would soon change from the root. Optimistic and open by nature, Violeta has shared her experience of new life via social networking, talked to people, spread her beliefs about a positive approach to life, and filmed videos for her YouTube channel. Every day more and more people watched her videos, and she gained more and more friends who wanted to talk to her, seeking her advice and attention. She encouraged, motivated and taught them how to have an optimistic approach to life. That is why the friends gave her the name “Fairy.” Today she is a motivational speaker with thousands of people who follow her on all leading social networks. People are inspired by her life story, by the fact that she came to America alone, with $50 in her pocket, started to work as a babysitter even though she is a teacher, and that anything that would have broken or discouraged her instead motivated and encouraged her. She says about that:

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A few years ago Violeta Sakovic came to the U.S. with only $50 in her pocket and now she is paid to hold motivational speeches. Here she is speaking at Credit Susse company (March, 2017)

Violeta Sakovic: Growing up in a small place in Serbia, I was, like I believe the most of the people of my generation, taught to follow a traditional way of living — education, work, marriage and family, just in that order — with expectations to possibly excel in each of them while being the most modest of all. I will take liberty to say that we were pretty much shaped by universal laws of environment, tradition, society, religion and the same “old school” disciplinary parenting. In that setting there was no effort or time for investing into our self-worth, potential, talents and a unique personality, needs and wishes we all have had. With an upbringing like this I felt empty, blind and helpless to build or look for my own happiness, imprisoned in my own inner dissatisfaction, pressured to accept numerous norms of expected behavior without ever being asked would I like them, or need them, and were they really necessary. I have always had a feeling that I can change that solid base of the harsh life I was taught to live. I was striving to find my talents, build my self-worth and find my own happiness. I will always respect my tradition, as it is a big part of me, but my soul needed challenges, satisfaction, something new, fresh and different.

Urban Culture Tribe: As many well-educated immigrants do, you worked in America as a babysitter, even though you are a teacher. Did that bother you?

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‘I decided to follow my heart, my dreams and my desires in my own timing’, Violeta Sakovic

Violeta Sakovic: After I had finished my college, I focused on the second order of my predetermined life. I was actively looking for a job, but I could not find any. Instead of sitting and feeling sorry for myself, I took the second best option: the opportunity to work, study and explore the whole new world in the U.S.A. as an au pair. That is when it all clicked and I realized that only I am acting upon my own life! I decided to follow my heart, my dreams and my desires in my own timing.

I came here and a new chapter of my life started. I knew that my life depended solely on me. I was not ashamed to work as a babysitter here despite my teaching degree. I did not mind changing diapers all day despite the fact I am not a mother. I was not afraid to depend on only $50 in my pocket, because I believed that my power was not in the amount of money I had had, but in everything else I had to offer: my skills, talents, knowledge, hard work and desire to learn and give my best. l invested all my energy in completely believing in myself!

Urban Culture Tribe: You made a video about coming to the U.S. with only $50. It is interesting that didn’t scare you or discourage you. How is that possible?

4. Rafting u mestu Poconos ( Pokonos ) 2016. godine sa prijateljicama Martom i Sanjom.

Rafting in Poconis: Violeta Sakovic (far right) with friends Marta and Sanja in Poconos, 2016 

Violeta Sakovic: I had to come to the U.S. to realize what potential I have. Coming here with only $50 in my pocket is just an example that not having any money should not stop you from trying. It for sure did not stop me. Instead of blaming others for not having what I thought I was entitled to, I took the action and responsibility for my own life. For me, coming here as an au pair was an entrance and a step to self-actualization. By being here alone I did not have anybody to rely on, to count on for any kind of help or to blame for missed opportunities. It is here where I learned that I can build the life I had always wanted only by following and depending on my intuition and a strong belief in myself. Thanks to all that, I perceived how worthy and powerful I am. I deeply believe and know that every person who struggles with life’s insecurities can achieve the same, and I am hoping that with my motivational speeches I will help the others to realize their own power. I also believed that people needed to hear my life story to learn how to never give up, lose the faith or settle for less than desired. The number of people who follow me on social media proves that my decision to share my beliefs was right.

Urban Culture Tribe: What was your first impression about America and New York? Have you been scared or excited? Have you been happy with your job, accommodation, new life? Did you have troubles to accommodate to new life?

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‘I thought I knew about the life here from the movies, but we all know that movies are mostly fiction and aesthetics…’ said Violeta Sakovic about New York

Violeta Sakovic: America and New York were unknown to me. I thought I knew about the life here from the movies, but we all know that movies are mostly fiction and aesthetics. When I decided to take a step and act upon my life, I honestly did not have any big expectations of this city or country, but mostly I had expectations of myself. The Universe worked that the moment I made the decision to change my life and realized that only I am acting upon my life, the opportunity in New York opened. It could have easily been any other destination in the world. My first impression was that everything here was so big — cars, buildings, roads, stoves, refrigerators to name a few. None of that was making me uncomfortable, but rather excited and challenged. There were so many new things to learn, acquire and to prove myself that I can. There really was not any reason to feel scared. Scared of what? Disappointment? Lost expectations? Bad luck? I was not scared, but a bit confused in the beginning because my thoughts were still in Serbia while my body was here. That disappeared as soon as I learned how to live in the present moment. Flexible and adaptable as I am, I quickly found joy in a job I was not educated for. If you take things in life as only temporary, you can enjoy them more.

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‘I loved to learn how to be a mother to a little individual who was nothing like me, a complete stranger’, Violeta said about little girl Zoe she takes care of (on the photo, from the left, Victoria (Zoe’s mom), little Zoe and Violeta)  

I loved to learn how to be a mother to a little individual who was nothing like me, a complete stranger. I was amazed with the amount of protection, love and patience I had discovered within me, working with this little girl every day. It was an interesting achievement of my life. The American way of upbringing the children stunned me — I learned that the best present and a mark you can leave in a child’s life is your unfailing support! That is the most valuable lesson I have ever learned. All that experiences are my way of accommodating in the present situations. If my life had not been a satisfaction here, I have my dear home where I can always come back.

Urban Culture Tribe: You say very often that you believe in the Law of Attraction. What made you believe in that law? How did you discover it?

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‘Instead of sitting and feeling sorry for myself, I took the opportunity to work, study and explore the whole new world in the U.S.A.’ Violeta Sakovic said talking about her life. 

Violeta Sakovic: As soon as I learned about Nikola Tesla and his understanding of the universe, energy and frequency in my physics class, I got interested in learning about all of the kinds of attractions there might be. Years later I applied his teachings to observation of the people around me. I wondered what are the differences in lives of content and noncontent people, and I concluded that their way of thinking and vision of life is completely opposite. If you constantly complain and feel miserable, life will give you more reasons for complaining. If you feel content, life gives you more reasons for gratitude. Your glow is your allure.

In my case, I recognized that my subconscious was using the Law of Attraction as ideas for actions. One of examples is finding the program for au pair job in the U.S.A. after I could not find a job in Serbia. I understood that somewhere deep, deep inside me I always wanted to come and live here. More and more I understand that this destination was calling me, as I achieved so much here and found my inspiration, energy and self-actualization at this place. I did not choose it, it attracted me. I want to say that the Law of Attraction is not simply a meditation with a repeating mantra for some wishes you beg the universe for. It is primarily awareness of the thoughts, words, actions and feelings. These create all attractions, even if subconscious. The Law by itself is nothing to be believed or not to be believed in. It is energy, like gravity — it is there and it works all the time.

6. Sunday Service with Margaret ( who is 103) in Unity Centar New York, 2016

Sunday Service with Margaret ( who is 103) in Unity Centar New York, 2016

Urban Culture Tribe: You recorded and published many motivational video on YouTube. In those videos you call yourself “Good Fairy.” How did you come up with that name and what do you talk about in those videos?

Violeta Sakovic: The name of my YouTube channel is “Good Fairy.” The idea came after numerous people who would contact me and shared their thoughts, problems and uncertainties with me would tell me that I was like a good fairy who always listens and helps them. Good fairy is a symbol of this unselfish personality of mine, which would always find the time and way to help others. Through my videos I am trying to motivate people to use their thoughts to free themselves of the pressure and shackles of others people’s expectations, judgments, critics. I try to encourage them to search deep inside them for their real desires and happiness and use their mind and feelings to act in order to acquire them, to see the optimism and the beauty of living and being, to fall in love with themselves, and most of all to believe in themselves and only themselves. I shared the extraordinary inspirational examples of people’s lives which showed and proved that everything is possible, that we are all interacted with each other and that we all pretty much have the same or similar life’s insecurities, but each of us faces them in a different way. I am trying to keep my listeners’ focus on a nicer, “sunnier” side of every situation and teach them to find an inspiration in every experience. We need to focus on creating our feelings because we attract how we feel.

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Violeta Sakovic is enjoing the nice weather by the ocean

Urban Culture Tribe: Who are your numerous followers on YouTube? How old are they? Are they men or women? Are they from Serbia, Europe or America?

Violeta Sakovic: The population who follows me is very diverse. For almost every subject I talk about, I get responses from both men and women. We all get through harsh times in our life sometimes, and I believe that everyone can find some helpful inspiration in my writings, debates, teachings. That’s why I would not gender-characterize them. Also, since my YouTube videos are in my native language, Serbian, most of the people who follow me are the ones who understand that language. I also do focus on problems and subjects I was familiar with while I lived at home. However, the years of living on this continent made me study and understand the American way of thinking, so soon my projects will be available in English too.

Urban Culture Tribe: People share with you their hopes, wishes, fears and struggles. Can you tell us generally what are their biggest fears, what are they afraid of? How do you console and encourage them?

Violeta Sakovic: I think that most of us are not even aware of our own insecurities. Today’s lack of self-confidence in people I communicate with on a daily basis, and my own, started with fears. From an early age, we tend to use fear and blackmail to scare children, and that continues throughout our school years. If you did poorly at school, parents would often get mad and raise their voice, threaten or even physically beat you up as you “broke” their expectations. Teachers can embarrass children in front of the whole class. Every person older than you had a right to bully you, to criticize the way you look and to openly make fun of you. The sense of shame, feeling worthless and powerless was easily developing inside us. As parents themselves used the same methods, there was nobody for consolation with empathy, understanding or an aim to protect us. None of that was our fault, and injustice hurts even more. It is hard to overcome that perception, and we tend to create even more insecurities within our own thoughts. This strong impact made us all think that we are never good enough.

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Violeta Sakovic with friends at ‘Abraham’ seminar in Washington

There was no opportunity to create self-confidence, and therefore we see every problem as unsolvable and with enormous fears of consequences (even if consequences are only positive). Lack of believing in ourselves is surprising. There is simply a fear to get out of our own problems. In some situations it is not even fear that stops people from acting for their own good or for the good of their children, but the belief that they are incapable of taking simple steps for, for example, improving their health (both mental and physical). It seems that being content and working on improving life is the biggest sin and crime committed. Lethargy is another problem I can often notice in people who contact me. Even with all my help, motivation, tools to change their mental being and negative feelings, many of them still expect somebody else to do their own actions.

I am trying to give people me support, understanding, confidence and trust that they can tell me all they want without a fear that I will ever judge them (as many of them do not have a support and understanding from their closest family and friends). I help them to realize their own strength, power, worthiness, love and happiness that they deserve, a right to love and enjoy life. I am helping them fall in love with themselves and accept themselves as they just are. Every person I met through my channel is an amazing, brave and remarkable individual. I really hope they will realize that themselves!

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‘Lack of believing in ourselves is surprising. There is simply a fear to get out of our own problems,’ Violeta Sakovic

Urban Culture Tribe: Not everyone thinks that your philosophy is good one. I noticed there are people who are unfriendly towards your motivational messages. How do you respond to them?

Violeta Sakovic: My page is public and I prepared myself to negative comments. The lesson I learned and intended to teach to others is that negative opinions do not have an impact on my life or my work and cannot stop me in my positive intentions. I have understanding for people who judge and criticize me because I am aware that not many people are ready to take responsibilities for their actions. It helps me to learn more about them while in the same time learning about me. I am glad I cause negative reactions from the audience as well, as this is a proof that they are not completely indifferent in their life. I actually appreciate the negative comments as much as the positive. However, I respect constructive debates much more and always look forward to such. We can all learn from each other.

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Cheers for the end of the our conversation – Violeta Sakovic, Good fairy from New York

Urban Culture Tribe: I heard that you are writing a book. What will you write about?

Violeta Sakovic: I will leave that for the reader to find out. It will reveal some of the helping tools to act upon own life.

11 thoughts on “Violeta Sakovic, good fairy from New York: Invest your energy in believing in yourself

  1. Michael, the piano man

    Your life story is truly remarkable/ inspiring and I’m so blessed to be a part of your amazing journey! :-) I’m so proud of you! xoxo

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  2. Anonymus

    Our scary world needs more good fairies and inspirational life stories. Her story and attitude are really inspiring. Thank you for the article!

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  3. Anonymous

    I love her brave attitude. We need more people like her and we need more uplifting articles like this one!!

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  4. alzatoimassisudojaja

    Here it comes… I haven’t read a more unsubstantial piece since I stopped reading zodiac. Sure, we all like positive news, pretty smiling faces and happy endings but this story is so opposite of special that it is difficult to describe. Repeating “positive attitude” indefinitely with cheap hooks such as “$50” is nothing short of tacky. I know about 50 people who emigrated with just a suit case, some of them actually in the suitcase, and their story is of resilience and stoicism; their story is of suffering and sacrifice… story of factory lines far far away from the ever charming Credit Suisse conference room. This story is as contrived as the table-waiting hollywood star shtick, profoundly empty with nothing but self-approval on offer. I have learned absolutely nothing reading it. Thanks.

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    1. Anonymous

      I don’t believe that you personally know many people who came to the U.S. in suitcase, but it is ok. That is your poetic freedom and exaggeration. If you really know you would have more compassion towards people who really came to the United States with $50 in their pocket and you wouldn’t call that as a Hollywood trick. If you really know how people in Serbia really live then you would have compassion and understanding for the young girl who overcame obstacles and who try to make her life better in a new country. So, just because she doesn’t complain and she really believes in good optimistic attitude she doesn’t have stoicism? Just because you don’t know did she suffer or not you think it is ok to be mean? And if you think leaving your country, accept a job under your education level, be absolutely alone in a foreign country and still, despite of everything, be positive, isn’t sacrifice – than dude you miss something huge!!!

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  5. Anonymous

    There are many losers like the guy above who hate successful and beautiful girls and need to attack them, but Violeta is a great young woman who is inspiration for every other young girl! Go Violeta. You are the best!!!

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